Per your request, Vicky,
Bride of Christ
From the Seven Festivals of Messiah â€“ Chumney: Chapter â€“ Rosh HaShanah
The Wedding of the Messiah, pp 125-134:
1. The selection of the bride. The bride was usually chosen by the father of the bridegroom.
2. A bride price was established. Yeshua being the bridegroom, paid a very high price for His bride.
1 Corinthians 6:20 â€“ 'For you were bought with a price. By all means glorify God in the body of you people.'
3. The bride and groom are betrothed to each other. This is the first stage of the marriage known as kiddushin. Betrothal legally binds the bride and groom together in the marriage contract except they do not physically live together.
4. A written document is drawn up, known as a ketubah. This betrothal contract is called, in Hebrew, a shitre erusin. The word ketubah means 'that which is written.'
The groom promised to work for her, to honor, support, and maintain her in truth, to provide food, clothing, and necessities, and to live together with her as husband and wife.
The ketubah was the unalienable right of the bride. The ketubah must be executed and signed prior to the wedding ceremony.
5. The bride must give her consent. God betrothed Himself to Israel at Mount Sinai as stated at Jeremiah 2:2-3:
"Go, and you must call out in the ears of Jerusalem, saying, 'This is what Jehovah has said: I will remember, on your part, the loving-kindness of your youth, the love during your being engaged to marry, your walking after me in the wilderness, in a land not sown with seed. Israel was something holy to Jehovah, the first yield to Him."
Israel consented to the marriage proposal from God and said, 'I do,' as it is written in Exodus 24:3:
"Then Moses came and related to the people all the words of Jehovah and all the judicial decisions, and all the people answered with one voice and said: 'All the words that Jehovah has spoken we are willing to do.'"
So, even today, to become the bride of Messiah you must still say 'I do' to Him.
6. Gifts were given to the bride and a cup called the cup of the covenant was shared between the bride and groom. The rite of betrothal (erusin) is completed when the groom gives something of value to the bride and she accepts it.
The gift most often given today is the ring. When the groom places the ring on the bride's finger, the rite of betrothal is completed. This completed rite is known in Hebrew as kiddushin, which means sanctification.
The gifts to the bride are symbols of love, commitment, and loyalty. The gift God gives to those who accept the Messiah is the Holy Spirit. (Ruach HaKodesh)
In addition, at this time, the cup of the covenant was shared and sealed between the bride and the groom with drinking of wine.
In doing so, the couple drinks from a common cup. The cup is first given to the groom to sip, and then is given to the bride. This cup, known as the cup of the covenant, is spoken of in Jeremiah 31:31-33:
"Look! There are days coming," is the utterance of Jehovah, 'and I will conclude with the house of Israel and with the house of Judah a new covenant; not like the covenant that I concluded with their forefathers in the day of my taking hold of their hand to bring them forth out of the land of Egypt, which covenant of mine they themselves broke, although I myself had husbandly ownership of them," is the utterance of Jehovah." "For this is the covenant that I shall conclude with the house of Israel after those days," is the utterance of Jehovah.
"I will put my law within them, and in their heart I shall write it. And I will become their God, and they themselves will become my people."
Yeshua spoke of the cup of the New Covenant (Brit Hadashah) in Luke 22:20:
"Also, the cup in the same way after they had the evening meal, he saying: "This cup means the new covenant by virtue of my blood, which is to be poured out in your behalf."
7. The bride had a mikvah (water immersion), which is a ritual of cleansing.
8. The bridegroom departed, going back to his father's house to prepare the bridal chamber. It is understood to be the man's duty to go away to be with his father, build a house, and prepare for the eventual wedding.
Before he goes, though, he will make a statement to the bride. 'I go to prepare a place for you; if I go, I will return again unto you.' This is the same statement Yeshua made in John 14:1-3:
"Do not let your hearts be troubled. Exercise faith in God, exercise faith in me. In the house of my Father there are many abodes. Otherwise, I would have told you, because I am going my way to prepare a place for you. Also, if I go my way and prepare a place for you, I am coming again and will receive you home to myself, that where I am you also may be."
9. The bride was consecrated and set apart for a period of time while the bridegroom was away building the house. Before the bridegroom could go and get the bride, the bridegroom's father had to be satisfied that every preparation had been made by the son. Only then could he give permission to the son to go and get the bride.
In other words, while the bridegroom was working on the bridal chamber, it was the father who 'okayed' the final bridal chamber. The bridegroom did not know when his father would declare the bridal chamber fit and send him to get his bride. This is exactly what Yeshua was referring to in Mark 13:32-37:
"Concerning that day or the hour nobody knows, neither the angels in heaven nor the Son, but the Father. Keep looking, keep awake, for you do not know when the appointed time is.
It is like a man traveling abroad that left his house and gave authority to his slaves, to each one his work, and commanded the doorkeeper to keep on the watch. Therefore keep on the watch, for you do not know when the master of the house is coming, whether late in the day or at midnight or at cock-crowing or early in the morning; in order that when he arrives suddenly, he does not find you sleeping."
Meanwhile, the bride was to wait eagerly for the return of the bridegroom. In the mind of the bride, the bridegroom could come at any time, even in the middle of the night or at midnight. Therefore, she had to be ready at all times.
Yeshua referred to this in Mark 13:22-27 and Matthew 25:1-13. While waiting for her bridegroom to come, the bride had to have thought to herself, 'Is he really coming back for me? Is he really going to keep his word?'
10. The bridegroom would return with a shout, 'Behold the bridegroom comes' and the sound of the ram's horn (shofar) would be blown. The time of the return of the bridegroom was usually at midnight. When the bridegroom did come, he came with a shout (Matthew 25:6) and with the blowing of a shofar (trumpet) (1 Thessalonians 4:16-17).
The marriage between the bride and the groom will take place under the chupah or wedding canopy. Since heaven is a type of chupah, we can see that when Yeshua gives a shout for His bride, accompanied by the blowing of the shofar (trumpet), the marriage between Yeshua and His bride will take place in heaven.
The marriage ceremony will have a sacred procession. For this reason, the bridegroom (Yeshua) will be led to the chupah first. When the bridegroom approaches the chupah, the cantor chants, 'Blessed is he who comes.' 'Blessed is he who comes' is an idiomatic expression meaning 'welcome.'
Yeshua said that He would not return for His bride until these words were said (Matthew 23:39). The groom is greeted like a king under the chupah.
11. He would abduct his bride, usually in the middle of the night, to go to the bridal chamber where the marriage would be consummated. This is the full marriage, known in Hebrew as nesu'in.
The bride and groom will go to the wedding chamber, or chadar in Hebrew, where the marriage will be consummated. They will stay in that wedding chamber for seven days, and at the end of the seven days, the bride and groom will come out from the wedding chamber.
12. Finally, there would be a marriage supper for all the guests invited by the father of the bride. When the bride and the groom initially went into the wedding chamber, the friend of the bridegroom stood outside the door.
All the assembled guests of the wedding gathered outside, waiting for the friend of the bridegroom to announce the consummation of the marriage, which was relayed to him by the groom.
John the Baptist referred to this in John 3:29. At this signal, great rejoicing broke forth (John 3:29). The marriage was consummated on the first night (Genesis 29:23). The bloodstained linen from this night was preserved. It was proof of the bride's virginity (Deuteronomy 22:13-21).
On the wedding day, the bridegroom is seen as a king and the bride as a queen (Psalm 45).